condoms in the boardroom
when we got to risk behaviors, they immediately named sex. "what's sex?" oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex. "would wiping my bum be considered anal sex?" penetration by a penis. "so lesbians don't have sex?" penetration, period. "*pop* (my thumb snaps the inside of my cheek like the old lolly-pop song) oral sex?" pleasure, orgasm, etc... finally we got down to specific act by act, because it's all about the behavior, not the label (ex. abstinence and virginity mean different things to different people, not to mention the whole "is oral sex really sex?" conversation). once i got one of them to say "vagina" things began to flow more comfortable. although, when one of the male employees suggested that oral sex on a woman was "mouth to vagina" we had a quick lesson on the other v-word, vulva. we talked about risk reduction techniques for handjobs, fingering, cunnilingus, fellatio, analingus, penile-vaginal penetrative intercourse, penile-anal penetrative intercourse, vulva-to-vulva rubbing or frottaging, same with penis-to-penis, penis-between-thighs, sex toys galore (tip: cover your larger electric toys with latex gloves, ex. hitachi magic wand).
by the end of the workshop, everyone had learned at least one new thing. including me.
Tip o' the day:
Risk Reduction for BBBJs (i'm still not offering them, but its good to know)
1. do not brush teeth or floss for at least 2 hours prior
2. swish mouth with a 1:1 hydrogen peroxide-water wash
3. open a vitamin e caplet. smear the vitamin e along gums and cheeks, inside and outside teeth, until all surfaces (ideally) are coated
4. withdraw cock from mouth prior to ejaculation