Tuesday, September 21, 2004

a little intro, i suppose

i work as a sexuality educator and research & write for a sexual health organization. through my academic studies, i explore larger sexual themes of identity and experience. sex work allows me to synthesize these fields.

working with a client, i always provide some basic sex ed, whether it's anatomy ("this is my g-spot", "this is your prostate") or sexual health ("you see, bareback blowjobs (BBBJs) but you (the male penetrating client) at risk for gonorrhea, chlamydia, herpes & hep B, not to mention my numerous personal risks which really aren't that sexy at all").

however, exploring their individual identity formations & justifications fascinate me. i work with the homophobic client who is drawn to anal penetration who i help work through the idea of shame through dom play (not to imply that all or even most bdsm involves shame or guilt, rather domination as a tool of permission) until he is able to enjoy his body & the pleasure it offers him. i watch another client explore my clit and g-spot in an effort to improve his wife's sexual pleasure and strengthen their marriage. as a whore i offer information, permission, and affirmation.

i love being a sex worker and more specifically i love being a whore. i am not ashamed of the work i do as i believe i am improving my clients' quality of life (as well as my own) through our encounters. yes, i worry about legal issues and being outted to certain conservative friends and family members, but these sentiments are similar to those surrounding my queer identity. however, i also feel sex worker community and visibility are important to constructing the support system necessary for positive sex work experiences.



Blogger Dacia said...

So pretty, so exciting! Let me know if you want help with set up, basic linkage tutorial, that stuff.

9/21/2004 1:43 PM  

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