Monday, November 15, 2004

im adventures

so, now that i have both yahoo (the_educated_slut) and aol (educated jane) im accounts, i'm getting some interesting random "hello"s. i have enjoyed speaking to several fellow bloggers and blog readers. however, this evening i received an im from a stranger who had picked my email from a biswingers group i attended many moons ago.

after my initial inquiry as to who he was and what was his story "john, 40, single" (very articulate this one), he ricocheted the questions. not wanting to bother with bullshit but at the same time recognizing a potential client, i said i was 22, a student, a sex educator, and a whore. which lead to this clever banter:
brillig3: r u practicing what u teach?
the_educated_slut: i get paid for both
brillig3: hmmm
brillig3: paid for sex?
the_educated_slut: yes sir, i believe that's the definition of a whore
brillig3: so a slut is the same as a whore?
the_educated_slut: no
the_educated_slut: a slut is someone proud of their sexual agency
the_educated_slut: a whore is someone who utilizes their sexuality in a system of mutual exchange
the_educated_slut: for example sex for money or sex for a job
brillig3: i thought someone who got paid for sex is a prostitute
the_educated_slut: a prostitute is one type of a whore
brillig3: oic
brillig3: so u do sex for a job?
the_educated_slut: one of several
brillig3: or sex for money
brillig3: ?
the_educated_slut: by "sex for a job" i meant someone who has sex with someone in exchange for employment, ex. casting couch
the_educated_slut: i do not engage in this type of whoring
the_educated_slut: i do have sex for money and also lead personal educational workshops with a great deal of intimacy
the_educated_slut: and i do some fetish work
brillig3: so its mostly for couples?
the_educated_slut: but i have legit jobs too
the_educated_slut: no, primarily for men
the_educated_slut: although often the goal is to benefit their female (or male) partners
brillig3: ok
the_educated_slut: anyways, got to go

so, the boy is intrigued, has added me to his list. i think as long as i can restrict him to tastes but no satisfying bites i may be able to wrangle some cash money out of the situation. could be an interesting new venue. especially since aff certainly seems a bust.

8 Comments:

Blogger Garrison Steelle said...

So, he's local to you? I'm sure he could use your help if he doesn't know the difference between a slut and a whore.

-G

11/16/2004 1:26 AM  
Blogger Dacia said...

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11/16/2004 1:52 AM  
Blogger Dacia said...

Ah, the semantics of slut vs. whore.

Where do I stick my dick? That's what it's all about right?

I Yahoo friended you or whatever: wakingvixen

I love finding new tools of procrastination. Mmmmm.

11/16/2004 1:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

AFF? You wouldn't happen to mean AdultFanFiction.Net, would you? If so, you can still access the meat of the site via this link: http://adultfan.nexcess.net/aff/

And if that's not what you meant by AFF, then go ahead and ignore/disregard this. :)

11/16/2004 6:50 AM  
Blogger Michael said...

I believe by AFF she meant "Adult Friend Finder," one of the more prominent hookup personal sites on the web.

Nice to know there's a central place for disturbing yaoi fic, though.

11/16/2004 11:21 AM  
Blogger Jane Vincent said...

aff = adult friend finder
but they suck!

as someone who went through the "i'm proud to be a slut but i am NOT a whore" phase (obviously prior to sex work), i have great respect and introspective experience with the slut v. whore semantic debate.

11/16/2004 12:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That's weird, AFF worked for me and craigslist didn't. I did have to go to my filtered messages tho - my inbox was full of kids claiming to have big dicks, but when I clicked on the messages AFF had sorted out there were good ones.

ember

11/16/2004 2:15 PM  
Blogger Dacia said...

I was pleased with the initial response to my AFF ad, but within the week I got kicked off for abuse. I guess I wasn't discreet enough, because I'd responded to messages saying that I'm looking for someone generous and the dudes got pissed. Whoops!

11/16/2004 2:30 PM  

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